I’ve Moved This Blog

February 24, 2010

Since I can tell this experiment is going to go on for awhile, I decided to purchase my own domain name to host the blog on my server.  I’ve imported the content of this blog, and from now on, posts will be on the new blog.


I See Money

February 24, 2010

Last weekend, Tim and I watched the movie, Shallow Hal.  It so inspired me to change how I was seeing the world that I decided to start a Feel Good Helpers page to talk about the movies and other media that can help us feel good.

I won’t repeat the plot of the movie here, but the gist of it is that Hal saw a beautiful girl where other people saw a fat girl.  When he fell in love because of what he saw, his life was transformed into what he wanted it to be.

I realized that seeing abundance is exactly the same as seeing beauty.  It doesn’t matter whether it’s really there or not.  If you see it, you feel different.  And if you feel different, you’ll vibrate different.  And if you vibrate different, by the law of attraction, you’ll attract different things into your life … abundant things.

I’ve decided to see MONEY:  all the ways my life reflects financial abundance instead of looking at the ways that it doesn’t.

Sure I have debt.  Sure I get creditor phone calls.  Sure I have dwindling resources.  Yadda, yadda, yadda.  NI!

But I have a wonderful home.  I have beautiful things to look at.  I have a wonderful Springer Spaniel.  I have two cars.  I have appliances that do the things I need them to do.  I have clothing.  I can buy groceries.  I can pay my bills right now.

What will happen if I keep my attention on this evidence of financial abundance instead of the “reality” of lack?

I don’t know.  But I’m going to find out.


Toot And Toot And Toot

February 23, 2010

“Don’t toot your own horn,” my mother always told me.

Translation:  don’t be too full of yourself, don’t be too proud of yourself, don’t pat yourself on the back too much, don’t brag, don’t be overconfident … etc., etc., etc.

We don’t much like people who extol their own virtues.  We much prefer people who speak in woundology or people who are self-deprecating.

Why don’t we call each other up and crow over our triumphs?  Why don’t we speak joyfully about the great night’s sleep we got or the cute dog we saw playing in the park?  Why don’t we give ourselves credit for all the things we do everyday, even if they’re so-called ordinary things that everyone does?  Isn’t it an accomplishment to brush and floss your teeth, exercise, hold a door open for someone, or smile at a stranger?  Why don’t we talk about these things?

Because if we do, people think we’re weird.  They think we’re self-centered, way too pleased with ourselves.

The only time we get to exult in the wonder of our life is when it’s a really big deal—a new job, a new lover, a lottery win.  Even then, we can only talk about it so much before people think we’re being obnoxious.

I’ve decided it would be a lot easier for us all to feel good if we celebrated each others’ happy moments more often.  I think we all need to toot our horns as much as possible.  We need to toot and toot and toot!

We might want to start with people we feel really safe with first. I’m starting with my husband, Tim.  He understands alignment, creating your own reality, finding a feel good place so you line up with what you want.  So he gets that I’m tooting my horn because I want to put my attention on what’s good.

I’m going to tell some friends about it too (those who read this blog, consider yourself forewarned).  I’m saying, “I’m going to be exulting a lot.  Get used to it.”

Will it change my life?  Who knows?  That’s what this experiment is all about.


No More Woundology

February 22, 2010

In her book, Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, best-selling author and medical intuitive Caroline Myss, talks about the power that lies in being wounded.

“One day, in passing, I introduced a friend of mine to two gentlemen I was talking with,” says Myss in her book. “Within two minutes, my friend managed to let these men know that she was an incest survivor. Her admission had nothing whatsoever to do with the conversation we’d been having, and in a flash I realized that she was using her wounds as leverage. She had gotten to the point that she defined herself by a negative experience.”

Once Myss became attuned to this phenomenon, which she dubbed woundology, she saw it everywhere. “In workshops and in daily life I saw that, rather than working to get beyond their wounds, people were using them as social currency,” says Myss. “They were confusing the therapeutic value of self-expression with permission to manipulate others with their wounds. Who would want to leave that behind? Health never commands so much clout!”

Have you ever noticed how we lead with what’s wrong?  People ask how you are, and you tell them about your latest illness or injury or “horrible” experience.  They immediately respond with their latest injury or problem.

I get this everyday from my mom.  She delights in telling me about the latest physical ailments that have been visited upon her or my dad.  She tells me about every little thing that has gone wrong.  These stories usually start with, “Oh, yesterday, we had a horrible experience.” These “horrible” experiences can range from getting a phone call that awakens them to having a deer in their backyard that’s having trouble figuring out how to get back out over the fence to getting bad service in a restaurant.

Of course, I speak fluent woundology too (most everyone does).

I speak it less than I used to though.  Many years ago, I stopped saying, “I’m depressed” or “I’m bipolar” or “I have an eating disorder.”  I began giving up the labels that were essentially badges for my wounds.

But I didn’t give up woundology completely.  Now, I’ve decided to reject the language.

Why do I need to tell someone about how my sinuses are stuffed up because of something blooming in my yard?  Who needs to know about my ankle pain?  My financial mess?  My struggles with food?  Etc.  Etc.  Etc.

There’s always something good going on.  My new intention is to ALWAYS find something good to say when people ask, “How are you?”

And if someone speaks woundology to me, I’ll listen, smiling and nodding, the way people who can’t understand a language do when they don’t have a clue what someone is saying to them.  I will not respond in kind.

It’s resolves like this, I’m convinced, that are going to make it possible for me to finally stick with this experiment.  Think about it.  If we’re talking about bad things, what is the law of attraction going to bring to us?  Bad things, of course.

Woundology puts us on a vibrational match with more wounds.  Who wants that?

I sure don’t.  So I’m talking about the good stuff!


Looking For Evidence

February 21, 2010

I’ve decided to start a list of the little things I manifest by focusing on them or talking about them.  Instead of sticking these things in posts here and there, I’ve create a new page,  Law of Attraction Evidence, so I’ll have all these goodies on one page.

This is going to be a fun list to make.  And I’m sure it will help me continue to feel good.  If you’re noticing the little things you’re manifesting, please share them in the comments on the Law of Attraction Evidence page.  Let’s help each other see how well this create your reality stuff works!


Testing The Law of Attraction

February 21, 2010

Earlier this week, I was poking around the internet looking to see if anyone else out there is testing Abraham-Hicks teachings.  I came across an e-how article that suggested you test the law of attraction by trying to manifest a blue feather.

I think this is profoundly silly and lousy advice.  Yes, some guy in The Secret manifested a distinctive feather, so I get inspiration for the idea.

But you’re not so much testing the law of attraction as you’re testing your ability to align with something.  And it’s difficult to get excited about something you don’t really want all that much.  The good feelings required to achieve alignment with a desire come from the exuberant expectation of fulfilling the desire.  I don’t know about you—but blue feathers don’t do that much for me.

I’d rather focus on something I really want.  Because I have resistance I need to work through on the subjects of the lottery, selling my latest books, etc., I’m going for something I feel a little more relaxed about:  manifesting $2000.  I’m starting there.

I’m thinking about how fun it will be to start to see myself matching up with my desires, and $2000 is a good place to start.

I think if we’re going to test our ability to manifest things, we should pick something we really want, and if we need to start small, fine, but we should still make it something we want.

Want to try it yourself?  Pick some little thing you’d like and think about how great it will be to have it.  Then make it your priority to find reasons to feel good.

Let me know what happens.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could all become what Abraham-Hicks calls Deliberate Creators?


True Feelings

February 20, 2010

I’m still baffled by Tim’s lack of success in spite of what he says he feels.  He says he feels like a lottery winner and he has felt that way for months, but here he is with no win yet and seriously dwindling funds.  This has hung me up.

But then, what if he’s not feeling what he thinks he feels?

Yesterday, on our walk, Tim got annoyed with me for a moment.  I read his annoyance in two bits of body language (a skyward look and blowing out air).

Tim has been trying to tell me for months that he feels the exuberance of being a rich man, but what I see is a rather blasé guy who shuffles through the day with not a lot of energy.  Sure, he’s relaxed, but excited about being a lottery winner?  He sure doesn’t act like it.

He’s been trying to tell me that he can feel that way without showing it.  I keep telling him that’s not possible.  The only way we can hide our true feelings is if we’re trying.  Otherwise, our feelings show in our body language—in the way we look, move, etc.  Why, I asked him, would he hide feeling exuberant, especially when he knows I would love to see evidence of him feeling like a lottery winner.  He says he’s not hiding it, but then, it’s not showing.

So what can I conclude?  He doesn’t feel as much like a lottery winner as he says he does.

I find this encouraging.  If Tim’s alignment hasn’t been as good as he thought it was, this explains why he doesn’t have money yet.

Conclusion: my experiment just might work.

So I’m going for it … again.