Yesterday, a friend sent me an e-mail telling me to check out her Facebook page. She’d added a bunch of pictures to it.
I don’t do Facebook. So I asked her how to do that. She sent me an invitation to be her friend on Facebook.
Turns out I have an account. I’d totally forgotten that I signed up about 2 ½ years ago when I was doing everything I could think of to promote websites. I never finished setting it up. Never wrote a profile or added pictures. Truth was my heart wasn’t in it.
I don’t like Facebook.
There, I said it.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the FBI comes knocking on my door. I think it might be anti-American to dislike Facebook. Even more radical to refuse to look at anyone’s Twitters.
I just don’t like people that much.
Well, okay, that’s not true. I mean, I like people, but I don’t want to know what everyone else is doing. It messes with my head.
Too many people are doing negative things. Or they’re doing positive things I think I should be doing and I’m not so I feel guilty that I’m not. Or they’re doing things I just plain don’t care about one way or the other.
Facebook is too exposed for me.
Yeah, me. A book author who has been on national TV to promote her book.
Or maybe it’s not that. Maybe it’s the group-think involved with it. The sheep aspect of it. Everyone’s doing it. I prefer to do things that not everyone is doing.
So I went to Facebook and accepted my friend’s request. I discovered one of my dear friends had made a friend request months ago. I accepted it then sent her an e-mail that said I hadn’t been ignoring her—I’d just not been following up with Facebook.
All authors should be on Facebook, the experts say. That thought makes my stomach clench up. I don’t like it.
A few days ago, this was Abraham’s daily quote:
“We would never do anything that didn’t make our heart sing! … And so you say, ‘But that choice doesn’t seem to be there. There’s this choice that doesn’t make my heart sing, or sort of staying where I am. So what should I do?’ And we say, we’d hang around and wait for something that makes our heart sing—and then we’d jump in with all four feet.”
I have SO much evidence that doing what other people say is a good idea doesn’t often work out. I want to do what makes my heart sing.
I’m working on a book proposal right now for a book about my 17-year relationship with Muggins, my dog that died in October last year. THAT makes my heart sing.
Facebook doesn’t make me sing. So my page is going to stay the mess it is. Thirty unanswered friend requests. No pictures. No information about me.
I don’t want to join that crowd.
And since I’m choosing to make feeling good my top priority, I don’t have to.